Convincing evidence suggests that serious problems like delinquency, school failure, interpersonal violence and premature parenthood have their roots in early childhood experiences. These are problems that cripple our current and future work forces and undermine economic growth by producing resource consumers rather than contributors.
Good mental health allows children to think clearly, develop socially and learn new skills. Additionally, good friends and encouraging words from adults are all important for helping children develop self confidence, high esteem and a healthy emotional outlook on life.
Basics for a child’s good physical health:
Basics for a child’s good mental health:
Give children unconditional love. Love, security and acceptance should be at the heart of family life. Children need to know that your love does not depend on his or her accomplishments. Mistakes and /or defeats should be expected and accepted. Confidence grows in a home that is full of unconditional love, affection and regard.
Nurture children’s confidence and self esteem. Praise them- Encouraging children’s first steps or their ability to play a new game helps them develop a desire to explore and learn about their surroundings. Allow them to explore and play in a safe area. Assure them by smiling and talking to them often. Participate in their activities. Young children need realistic goals that match their ambitions with their abilities. With your help, older children can choose activities that test their abilities and increase their self confidence. Be honest- It is important for children to know we all make mistakes, it’s part of being human. Avoid sarcastic remarks- If a child loses a game or fails a test, find out how they feel about the situation. A child may be discouraged and need a pep talk; when they are ready, talk and offer assurance. Encourage children to not only strive to do their best, but to also enjoy the process. Trying new activities teaches teamwork, self esteem, and new skills.
Make time for play. Encourage children to play. Play is the work of children. It is as important to their development as food and good care. Playtime helps children be creative, learn problem solving and learn self control. Children need playmates. Playing with others they discover strengths and weaknesses, develop sense of belonging, learn ‘get along’ skills. Join the fun, playing with them is an opportunity to spend time together. Play for fun, its important for children to participate and enjoy themselves. TV use should be monitored!
Provide appropriate guidance and discipline. Be firm, but kind and realistic with your expectations. Children’s development depends on your love and encouragement. Set a good example. You cannot expect self control and self discipline from a child if you do not practice this behavior. Remember the goal is not to control the child, but for the child to learn self control. Criticize the behavior, not the child. Avoid nagging, threats and bribery. Give children the reasons ‘why’ you are disciplining them. Talk about your feelings, its ok to apologize if you were wrong. Provide a safe and secure home.
Contact your family physician or a mental health professional (Riverwood Centers, formerly Five County Mental Health Center, is a service at (320) 396-3333) if a child appears to have problems with emotions and/or behaviors. Warning signs that may indicate need for professional assistance or evaluation: decline in school performance; poor grades despite strong efforts; regular worry or anxiety; repeated refusal to go to school or take part in normal children’s activities; hyperactivity or fidgeting; persistent nightmares; persistent disobedience or aggression; frequent temper tantrums; depression, sadness or irritability.
The resource for material in the article is credited to: www.mentalhealthamerica.net.
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